Objectivity - it may not really exist. How this belief can help you inharmonising your everyday relationships

Have you heard of a saying: "try to see things as they are, not how you perceive them to be." This may sound like a wise advice that encourages you to see things in an objective way. Fair enough, but what if I told you that this is not really possible?

Scientists have found that there may not be such thing as objective truth or reality after all. It all started with the findings in Quantum Physics. Watch the following video—a cartoon from the movie "What the bleep do we know" explaining the very foundation of Quantum Mechanics. The video is trying to show us how physical things materialise when we expose them to our observation. When we're not observing, they only exist as possibilities. Didn't get it? Go on take a look if you have about 5 minutes to spare.

In everyday life, at work or at home, we sometimes get into arguments with co-workers or loved ones. Very often we fall into the illusion that our side of the argument is an *objective* view of the matter, or in other words, the "right" one. What we don't realise in this situation is that nothing can stay objective once exposed to interpretations. Once the matter of argument gets exposed to your interpretation, just like the matter that gets 'observed' in the video, the thing would no longer be objective. 

Okay, that may seem a little bit radical. Objectivity as we know it does exist, but it's really in another sense: it's really just the act of balancing two or more differing point of views. We can never be 100% objective. There would never be an absolute objective view, or what we call the "right" view, or the "truth" once we expose it to our interpretation.

Benefit? When you adopt this belief, this will make you wiser in your everyday interactions with co-workers, friends and families. It'll keep your ego in check. When you're in a heated argument and thinking your view is the "right" one, you will stop and think: "hang on, there's no such thing as objective, so perhaps I should take time listen to what he/she has to say." By having this attitude, you will inevitably win the respect and appreciation of people you interact with everyday.